A prominent and esteemed critic challenges widely held beliefs about children and parenting, revealing that underlying each myth is a deeply conservative ideology that is, ironically, often adopted by liberal parents.
Product Code: 5978
ISBN: 9780807073889
Format: Paperback
Publisher: Beacon Press
Published Date: 03/08/2016
Availability:In stock
Price: $17.00

Somehow a set of deeply conservative assumptions about children—what they’re like and how they should be raised—has congealed into the conventional wisdom in our society. Parents are accused of being both permissive and overprotective, unwilling to set limits and afraid to let their kids fail. Alfie Kohn systematically debunks these beliefs, not only challenging erroneous factual claims but also exposing the troubling ideology that underlies them. Complaints about pushover parents and coddled kids are hardly new, he shows, and there is no evidence that either phenomenon is especially widespread today—let alone more common than in previous generations. Moreover, new research reveals that helicopter parenting is quite rare and, surprisingly, may do more good than harm when it does occur. The major threat to healthy child development, Kohn argues, is parenting that is too controlling rather than too indulgent.

With the same lively, contrarian style that marked his influential books about rewards, competition, and education, Kohn relies on a vast collection of social science data, as well as on logic and humor, to challenge assertions that appear with numbing regularity in the popular press and are often accepted uncritically, even by people who are politically liberal. These include claims that young people •suffer from inflated self-esteem •are entitled and narcissistic •receive trophies, praise, and A’s too easily •are in need of more self-discipline and “grit”

Kohn’s invitation to reexamine these and other assumptions is particularly timely; his book has the potential to change our culture’s conversation about kids and the people who raise them.

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CHAPTER 1: Permissive Parents, Coddled Kids, and Other Reliable Bogeymen
CHAPTER 2: Parenting in Perspective
CHAPTER 3: Overstating Overparenting
CHAPTER 4: Getting Hit on the Head Lessons: Motivation, Failure, and the Outrage over Participation Trophies
CHAPTER 5: The Underlying Values: Conditionality, Scarcity, and Deprivation
CHAPTER 6: The Attack on Self-Esteem
CHAPTER 7: Why Self-Discipline Is Overrated: A Closer Look at Grit, Marshmallows, and Control from Within
CHAPTER 8: Raising Rebels


"With his trademark blend of skepticism and idealism, [Kohn] dismantles most of the hype surrounding motivation and competition, failure and success.” —Boston Globe

“Kohn explains why the belief that modern parents are too permissive (or too overprotective) and that kids are entitled, narcissistic monsters is wrong. He has the research to back it up and creates a convincing argument.” —San Francisco Book Review

“A wise and passionate book—by one of the best friends our children have today—that is also a delight to read.” —Jonathan Kozol, author of Fire in the Ashes

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