Ken Beldon, James Coomes, Erik Kesting, Joseph Santos-Lyons, Anthony David, Kent Matthies, Forrest Gilmore, Greg Pelley, Nathan Ryan, Scott Gerard Prinster and Manish K. Mishra talk openly about their own experiences becoming adults-relationships with parents, children, and spouses and partners, as well as the search for a calling. What unites these stories is their authors' commitment to justice, love, compassion and the kind of self-understanding and wisdom it takes to make yourself a better person. Here are young Unitarian Universalist men boldly and honestly exploring the challenges they faced while growing up and the choices they made.
My friend's words were exactly what I needed. They were simple and direct and reached way down inside me to soothe me where I felt the worst: "Remember, we're both only thirty-three, and a good deal of the important stuff that's going to happen to us in this life hasn't happened yet." His words were a saving grace, a reminder that what seemed to be a life sentence might one day be lifted. Eventually I'd be okay.
-from "Younger Than That Now" by Ken Beldon
Table Of Contents:
Foreword by Neil Chethik Introduction by Ken Beldon Younger Than That Now
Ken Beldon Caught in the Whirlwind
James Coomes The Larger World
Erik Kesting Being the Change I Want to See
Joseph Santos-Lyons Wrestling Matches
Anthony David Receiving Grace
Kent Matthies Longing for Adulthood
Forrest Gilmore A Path Diverted
Greg Pelley Getting Ready for the Real World
Nathan Ryan The Ties That Bind
Scott Gerard Prinster The Call of Self
Manish K. Mishra Discussion Questions
"Ken Beldon and the fine crew he has assembled here prove beyond the shadow of a doubt that liberating our inner adult beats the daylights out of coddling our inner child."
-Forrest Church, author, So Help Me God, and minister of public theology, Unitarian Church of All Souls in New York City
"As a seasoned veteran of 35 years in the men's movement in our Unitarian Universalist ranks, I was heartened by the gutsy and transformative stories of my younger brothers captured in this splendid volume. We're all blessed to be turning over the globe to these maturing men and their supportive sisters."
-Tom Owen-Towle, author of Brother-Spirit and Save the Males
"What makes this collection so valuable? Most of all, it's the honesty. These are not the puff-chested boasts of macho men, nor the whining of the defeated. They are, rather, a well-kneaded blend of troubles and triumphs, directly from men who have experienced both."
-Neil Chethik, author, VoiceMale